Reclaiming Your Mind

We all have different stories so you would assume that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to this conundrum. But even though the story is different, and the villains vary, the characters involved may be diverse, and the settings may be unalike, even the number of chapters it lasted differs… the solution may not be so different.

One of the major keys to healing form narcissistic abuse is to understand that you cannot change them back into who you thought they were. That version of them, the one you loved, cared for, protected, supported and was always there for never existed. That version of them was created to turn you into the person they could use and abuse. They went to great pains to convince you they were the kind of person you need in your life,

I have spent over 10 years in the ‘I’m a survivor’ mode. Being a survivor is depicted as being so honourable, brave and empowering, that Beyonce and Destiny’s Child sang a very catchy song about it. Although I have to say that going through the trauma did not feel very honourable or brave and whilst it was extremely empowering to finally remove myself from the situation, it took every-little-bit of strength I had, and it stole the next ten years for recovery and the rebuild

The misconception with positive thinking that a positive thinker is happy and upbeat all the time. That's just not true at all.